They say you are the master of the universe, yes that is true in my opinion. Your knowledge of who you are will help you understand the things you have control of. They are innate within acquired since childhood or through the environment you grew up with, which helped shaped your personality. It could be the positive personality trait or the negative one. Learning to live in the present moment regardless of your limitations will help you live in a holistic manner. Nothing wrong to strive to look into every opportunity for growth while toning down if not eradicating the less wholesome aura that will bring about a remarkable person you hope to achieve someday. Aim for perfection without being judgmental. No expectations, widen your horizon, and keep loving!